The wedding same-day-edit video went better than expected and I am very thankful for that. I think what really stressed me is the expectation I put myself under. It's not because I want to push myself to do something beyond my capabilities, but I feel that my cousin deserves an awesome wedding. Although he wasn't as excited as how I'd expect, I still think this relationship deserves some kind of documentation to commemorate... love and dedication (as sappy as it sounds lol). And I hoped my video could capture their special day, and their real and genuine dedication to each other.
I can't deny that my skepticism of wedding dinners, especially chinese ones, have increased tremendously after this wedding hahahaha. I don't understand the customary fake-cake cutting ceremony, the champagne towers, the overrated 9-course dinner and the religious programs. What I want on my wedding is to have something out of the norm. I don't want to follow tradition religiously. It's cool to follow traditions in the modern way, but no way will it be so religious. Why should we travel to the brides house, go to the groom's house for tea ceremony, and then back to the female's for tea ceremony again?! And why do we need to follow a fixed time to go to each house?!
I was having a conversation with my cousin about wedding a few weeks back and we were analyzing the reason for some of the rituals in weddings, especially in Singapore. Cake cutting in the past, for example, was meant to display the wealth of families. Because cake is an expensive item in the past, having a cake at your wedding meant that you are well to do. My cousin also quoted this theory (no idea from whom) that believes that the migration of traditions causes a strengthening in these traditions. What this means is that when traditions migrate, for example, from China to Singapore, Singaporean chinese will follow these traditions more religiously than China chinese over time. I guess it's somewhat related to innate need of humans to be culturally rooted. So over time, the chinese wedding traditions in China will dilute faster than the traditions in Singapore. It's believable.
I think the scary thing is that people are unaware of being trapped in this vicious cycle. And they spend thousands of dollars organizing (in my opinion) the most mundane wedding ever. They are forced to flaunt their status by organizing an expensive 9-course dinner, and their friends are also forced to pay for a party they already know the flow of the program. What really disgusts me the most is that websites have been set up to show the ang bao friends are supposed to pack when they attend weddings at different restaurants. I think people have forgotten the reason and meaning behind these religious tradition.
What I want at my wedding is beer, ba chor mee and more beer. There's definitely gonna be an epic wedding video but it's gonna be more of a documentary style. This video shouldn't be dictated by a popular/indie music but the content should be raw footages of people, and inteviews blah blah... Why should a love story be told by a song which is essentially another person's opinion of love?
Labels: Family, Reminders